Friday, August 14, 2009

Family and more family

We've just heard recently that my mother in law is in the beginning stages of renal failure. She apparently is dehydrated but has little interest in drinking more water. MIL is 90 years old. My poor husband has been working 7 days a week for the past few weeks and won't catch a break for another 2 weeks or so, but he is hoping to get back home (it's 750 miles away) asap. He is so lucky that his brother is nearby to keep the ball rolling on doctor appointments and everything else. MIL still has her house but has lived in a senior residential home for years.

It could prove to be a rough fall. Our calendar is packed with college visits for DD and crazy work and school schedules. DD is planning to work every day after school at the after school program at our ice arena. This will be her 3rd year doing this. I just hope she doesn't get burned out with her studies and pressure to get into college. I will be watching her back every second. Our son will be entering his 3rd year of college and will be concentrating on art. I desperately hope (does that make sense?) that he has a good year.

I was quite concerned about my own mom after seeing her last month. I don't get out to NJ very often anymore for various reasons, so when I do see her, I always see a big change. She is tiny and frail and barely eats. It's almost as if she is not eating on purpose. Someone talked her into getting very expensive dental implants and it just hasn't worked out for her. Therefore, no teeth. She barely goes out anymore but reads, reads and reads some more! No one seems to go to the library for her...I just can't figure that out. My sister is not a reader and I don't think she has a clue as to what to choose. I am hoping that mom will use the book delivery service the library has. She just needs to follow up on it and not just talk about it.

Thanks for listening everyone. I just felt like writing a bit today about what is going on in our family.

8 comments:

Jeanne - WillowTreeStitcher said...

Sorry to hear about your family issues Barb. It's worrisome having to deal with aging parents. And I agree with you on the needlework websites. My LNS has a basic flashpage but I've never understood why they didn't take it to online ordering etc especially when you can link direct to Hoffman for patterns at least. There are so many people that live in areas without any shops that the internet is all they have.

Jan said...

Barb, will be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. Always tough when family is far away and they need us and we can't get there as often as we like. Hope someone keeps your mom supplied with the books she loves.

Carol said...

It is so difficult to be far away from aging parents Barb...believe me, I know. The library's "Books by Mail" program would be a wonderful option for your mom. (Or email me and I'd be happy to help you with suggestions for her!)

Karoline said...

{{{{Barb & family}}}} Sorry to hear about all your family issues. Having gone through a serious illness with my own MIL this year I know how tough it can be.

Lee said...

It's so hard to watch our parents age and become frail, and I think it's particularly hard for our generation because we still have children at home. Difficult choices...

I'll send you an email shortly!

Kathy A. said...

Oh Barb, I am so sorry to hear about your MIL. I guess we all have our crosses to bear. Thank you so much for your kind comments this morning.

Lisa said...

Hi Barb,
First I am so glad that you found my blog; so I wanted to visit your and I am now a follower and will put you on my list of blogs I read in the mornings. I have read a couple of your latest posts and I am sorry to hear of your family troubles...I will think of you & family and send positive thoughts your way.
I have a couple of "not so" LNS here, only getting there a couple of times a year. I rely on internet. Needle in a Haystack (LNS) has a website, but I tend to rely on 123stitch.com (mainly because it is easy to order from and if there is an issue they actually contact you asap) and a few others.
Anyway...take care! Thank you again for visiting!
Lisa in CA

mainely stitching said...

Sending best wishes for your family.